![]() ![]() ![]() The stories in this book reflect the author's recollection of events. The disclaimer language goes something like this: You can explain that choice in a disclaimer at the beginning of your book. Remember, too, that you have the option to use some real names and some pseudonyms. Whatever feedback or advice you get, in the end you're the one who has to live with the decision and its consequences. If you have the good fortune to have sold your book to a publishing house, their legal department will take care of that part, vetting the manuscript before it goes to press.Įven if you paint a character in a glowing light, it's not a bad idea to have a conversation with him before publication, and be willing to show him the scenes in which he appears. This is where an attorney well-versed in publishing could come in handy. If Uncle Saul really does come off as a complete putz, you probably will want to change his name, and you may even need to alter recognizable traits or story elements. Steps to Take to Protect Yourself (And Those You Write About) Regardless of how you have portrayed the people in your memoir, if you use real names, or if the characters are otherwise recognizable, you may need to get signed permissions. Perhaps you think you've written Uncle Saul as a complete ogre, while your editor or friend finds him endearing. Hire an editor or enlist a trusted friend (trusted to be kind, but also to tell the truth) and ask her how she thinks you've portrayed a particular character. We're often far too close to our own writing (and our own story) to see it clearly. Before publishing your memoir, get feedback from others and, if necessary, consult an attorney. After completing the first draft or two, you might have more clarity on the pros and cons of using real names.ģ. Wait until you're ready to sit down to your second draft (or third or fourth) to decide what you're going to do about the name issue. Save the editing and decision making for a later draft.Ģ. The best way to write a first draft is to remove all censorship and pour it out onto the page. You (like most writers) already battle with enough resistance and procrastination when trying to write don't make it worse by censoring yourself. Write your first draft exactly as it happened, using all real names and places. The answer I usually give my clients comes in three parts:ġ. If, however, you'd rather not mention genitalia in your book, you're still left with the question: “Do I use their real names?” Real or Fictionalized Names? If anyone tries this tack, I'd love to hear how it works. ![]() Someone in the audience had asked the very question at hand about one particular character in his own memoir and, in true Lamott style, she answered: "Give the character a small penis." Once the laughter in the audience died down, someone else asked, “What if the character is a woman?” Without missing a beat, Lamott said, “Give the character a small penis.” (And you certainly don't want to end up getting sued for slander or libel.) So what do you do? Do you write your story as fiction? Do you move your town halfway across the country and rename all the characters? Do you change all recognizable traits?Īnne Lamott provided a hilarious answer at a reading I attended many years ago. If there's drama or conflict (and drama and conflict make for good storytelling), then at least one person was a jerk.īut just because someone behaved badly doesn't mean you want to ruin that person's life by exposing him in public. Perhaps you had a harrowing childhood or you escaped from an abusive relationship, or maybe you built your dream despite all the naysayers. Let's face it, you probably want to write about your life because it's been hard. These authors aren't worried about writing that Uncle Saul was an absolute angel. Of course, this question wouldn't arise if the people in my clients' lives had behaved nicely. None of us lives in a vacuum (except maybe a monk living in a cave in the Himalayas, but so far I haven't had any cave-dwelling monks as clients). You can't very well write about your life without writing about the people in your life. This is a question that gets asked every time I work with authors who are writing about their own lives. “Should I change the names of the people in my memoir?” ![]()
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